If you're looking for counselling books to invest in, these books come with the Lincoln Counsellors Network seal of approval.  

The following books and resources have been recommended by LCN members and guest speakers. 

Narcissism: Denial of the True Self

by Alexander Lowen

Are you a narcissist? Do you interact with someone who is? Contrary to popular belief, narcissists do not love themselves or anyone else. They cannot accept their true selves, constructing instead fixed masks that hide emotional numbness.

In this groundbreaking study, Dr. Alexander Lowen uses his extensive clinical experience to demonstrate how narcissists can recover their suppressed feelings and regain their lost humanity.

Running on Empty: Overcome Your Childhood Emotional Neglect

by Janice Webb

A large segment of the population struggles with feelings of being detached from themselves and their loved ones. They feel flawed, and blame themselves. Running on Empty will help them realize that they're suffering not because of something that happened to them in childhood, but because of something that didn't happen

The Body Remembers: The Psychophysiology of Trauma and Trauma Treatment by Babette Rothschild

This book illuminates that physiology, shining a bright light on the impact of trauma on the body and the phenomenon of somatic memory. It is now thought that people who have been traumatized hold an implicit memory of traumatic events in their brains and bodies


My Underpants Rule by Rod and Kate Power

Teaching kids to protect themselves is CHILD'S PLAY! My Underpants RULE! empowers without needing to go into the darkness of this tricky topic through rhyming language, colourful illustrations, a super-hero theme and child-friendly humour. LOVED by kids and EASY for parents/carers and educators, it engages and effectively teaches "What's under my PANTS belongs ONLY to ME!"


The Big Book of Blobs by Pip Wilson and Ian Long

​This is a photocopiable collection of blob pictures to promote discussion. These blob pictures offer a unique way to initiate discussion about all sorts of issues and subjects


The Sedated Society: The causes and harms of our psychiatriac drug epidemic by James Davies

What drives the over prescription of psychiatric medication epidemic? Over 15% of the UK public takes a psychiatric medication on any given day, and the numbers are only set to increase. Placing this figure alongside the emerging clinical and scientific data revealing their poor outcomes and the harms these medications often cause, their commercial success cannot be explained by their therapeutic efficacy.


Ted Talk: Pico Iyer: Where Is Home? 

About TCK (Third Culture Kids)​


Misunderstood: The impact of growing up overseas in the 21st century by Tanya Crossman

Over 200 million people currently live abroad; more than 50 million are temporary residents, intending to return to their country of origin. Misunderstood explores the impact international life can have on the children of such families – while they live overseas, when they return, and as they mature into adults. Similarities in their shared experiences (regardless of the different countries in which they have lived) create a safe space of comfort and understanding. Tanya Crossman introduces this space – the Third Culture – through the personal stories of hundreds of individuals. Whether you grew up overseas, are raising children overseas, or know a family living abroad, Misunderstood will equip you with insights into the international experience, along with practical suggestions for how to offer meaningful care and support.

Belonging Everywhere & Nowhere: Insights into Counseling the Globally Mobile by Lois Bushong

​How to effectively counsel clients raised outside of their parents' home culture. The readers will discover what are the basic characteristics and counseling skills effective with Third Culture Kids (TKC)  (those who have spent the majority of their developmental years outside of their passport country).


Blank Minds And Sticky Moments In Counselling by Janice Russell and Graham Dexter. 

Friends of LCN, Janice and Graham wrote this book, which I recommend to newly qualified and experienced counsellors alike.  For me, a must have on the counsellors bookshelf.  


Institutes and how to survive them by Robin Skynner

​Institutes and How to Survive Them" is an edited selection of papers about personal growth and professional development in the mental health field. It describes how institutions can resource professionals - through training, supervision and consultation - to include them in the equation of change.

Starve The Monster: A Powerful Process To Kill Your Addiction Thinking

by Hugh Quigley

In this amazing new work from Functional Using Expert Hugh Quigley especially for Professional people who think that their substance abuse is getting out of hand it covers killing your addiction thinking.


You can use these techniques to see your future more clearly, take charge of your life, and even gain peace of mind!

From Report To Court from Rights Of Women

This is a great website for anyone working with domestic violence or sexual violence. The organisation helps with free, confidential legal advice.  

'From report to court' walks you through what happens when reporting rape, what to expect, your options and rights. 


Third Culture Kids: Growing Up Among Worlds  by David C Pollocl & Ruth E Van Reken

​Filled with real-life anecdotes, Third Culture Kids examines the nature of the TCK experience and its effect on maturing, developing a sense of identity and adjusting to one s passport country upon return.


Freedoms Flowers: The Effects Of Domestic Abuse On Children by Mrs Pat Craven

​Freedoms Flowers is a book about the effects of domestic abuse on children. It is composed of firsthand accounts from these children and their mothers.


Mating In Captivity by Ester Perel

Recommended by LCN member, Mating In Captivity ​looks at the difficulty in maintaining an exciting and fulfilling intimate relationships with a partner. 


Counselling Adult Survivors Of Child Sexual Abuse by Christiane Sanderson

This book is aimed at counsellors at all stages, from novices to the experienced.  It provides practical strategies, valuable insights and information for those looking to understand and support those working with child sexual abuse and its impact on children and survivors. 


Last Orders; The Essential Guide To Your Letter Of Wishes by Patricia C Byron

Death is often a taboo subject and can leave people unprepared.  This causes extra stress at an already difficult time.  This brilliant book is really a workbook to plan how you would like your ending to be, from funeral wishes to caring for the loved pets.  


The power of vulnerability - TED talk by Brene Brown

Amazing TED talk by this brilliant, witty woman.


The emotionally absent mother: a guide to self healing and getting the love you missed by Jasmin Lee Cori

​Was your mother too busy, too tired, or too checked-out to provide you with the nurturing you needed as a child?  "The Emotionally Absent Mother" will help you understand what was missing from your childhood, how this relates to your mother s own history, and how you can fill the mother gap


Sexual Happiness For Women by Maurice Yaffe and Elizabeth Fenwick 

Recommended by​ Jakki Scoffin, sex therapist


Living With The Dominator: A Book About The Freedom Programme - by Pat Craven and Jacky Fleming

​This book explains violent and abusive behaviour and places it in a social context. It can help readers of any age and sexual orientation to change their own bahaviour and to recognise when they are being controlled.


Who moved my cheese? by Dr Spencer Johnson

A highly recommended, easily readable book about change ​


Journeys With The Black Dog Edited by Tessa Wigney, Kerrie Eyers & Gordon Parker

In this book, people with depression share their stories.  Inspirational, and useful both for those suffering with depression and those who care for them.  

Black Box Thinking: The Surprising Truth About Success

by Matthew Syed

Black Box Thinking is a new approach to high performance, a means of finding an edge in a complex and fast-changing world. It is not just about sport, but has powerful implications for business and politics, as well as for parents and students. In other words, all of us.

Drawing on a dizzying array of case studies and real-world examples, together with cutting-edge research on marginal gains, creativity and grit, Matthew Syed tells the inside story of how success really happens - and how we cannot grow unless we are prepared to learn from our mistakes.

Writing Out of Limbo: International Childhoods, Global Nomads and Third Culture Kids by Gene H Bell-Villada

Crossing borders and boundaries, countries and cultures, they are the children of the military, diplomatic corps, international business, education and missions communities. They are called Third Culture Kids or Global Nomads, and the many benefits of their lifestyle expanded worldview, multiplicity of languages, tolerance for difference are often mitigated by recurring losses of relationships, of stability, of permanent roots. This book provides a major leap in understanding what it s like to grow up among worlds.


The CBT Art Activity Book: 100 illustrated handouts for creative therapeutic work by Jennifer Guest

​The intricate, attractive designs are illustrated in the popular zentangle style and are suitable for adults and young people, in individual or group work. The worksheets use cognitive behavioural therapy (CBT) and art as therapy to address outcomes including improved self-esteem, emotional wellbeing, anger management, coping with change and loss, problem solving and future planning


Counselling Survivors Of Domestic Abuse by Christiane Sanderson 

​Counselling Survivors of Domestic Abuse explains how counsellors can facilitate recovery from domestic abuse within a secure, supportive therapeutic relationship.


Fat Is A Feminist Issue by Susie Orbach

Highly recommend by myself, this book is a true classic.  Looking at the relationship women have with food, body image, diets and size, it helps to make food our friend again, and accept ourselves. 


Counselling For Toads: A Psychological Adventure by Robert de Board

Based around The Wind In The Willows, Toad is depressed and encouraged to go for counselling.  ​This is his journey of self knowledge and self development using Transactional Analysis


Staying Together by Susan Quilliam 

Highly recommended by Denise Pickup, experienced relationship counsellor.  

This is one of the Relate series of books, which are a great resource. 


Help For Your Nerves by Dr Claire Weeks

A classic self help book for dealing with nervous anxiety.  ​


The dance of anger by Harriet G Lerner

A great book for understanding anger​


Intimate partners: patterns in love and marriage by Maggie Scarf

​A fantastic book, written in a style which makes understanding the concepts extremely easy.


Erectile Dysfunction by Ian Eardley, Krishna Sethia and John Dean 

Recommended by Jakki Scoffin, sex therapist​


Masters and Johnson on Sex and Human Loving 

Classic book on sexual relationahips


Basic Freud (Psychodynamics for the 21st century) by Michael Kahn

​An interesting introduction to Freud and psychoanalysis,written in a lively conversational style.Lots of anecdotes and examples.Educational but fun to read.


The Upside Of Stress  by Kelly McGonigal.  

How to harness the positive power of stress. 


Navigating Teenage Depression by Gordon Parker & Kerrie Eyers

This is a guide for parents and professionals.  When does teenage moodiness cross over into something more serious, and how can we support teens with depression.  ​

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